Reconnected with old HS friend on FB....sad :(

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I was showing the kids some videos last week from when I was in high school and spotted one of my old friends. He was a dude I met in middle school. We played in the band for many years in the same section, had a lot of classes together, had a couple sleepovers, and hung out on the weekends. We even drove across the country and went to Disney World together once one summer.

I moved away from home around age 17 and never really kept in touch with anyone, so I haven't talked with this guy in over 20 years. In fact, I haven't hardly really talked to anyone and have no clue of any news about my hometown, high school buddies, or anything.

I found him pretty quickly on FB and sent him a friends request. The next night, we are chatting, but things seem a little weird. The first thing I noticed were all these weird music videos of him singing. I asked him what's up with all that, and he tells me it's to "give bak to my peeps mane. I'm gunna b opening for JayZ next month." His videos were garbage, so I thought he was probably just joking, but it still didn't explain all the music videos. After talking a bit more, it started becoming clearer..this dude is psychotic. I didn't want to ask him directly about his mental health history, so I tried to ask him about his employment and if he was still healthy and doing well. He admitted that he was on disability for a mental illness and shared the medications he has been prescribed.

Sadly, he told me he hadn't been taking his medications because he doesn't believe he's mentally ill anymore.

"I've heard and read on that psychosis and schizophrenia bullshit stuff I can spit out some pyschcirst shit to you and you wouldn't Kno wat I'm talking about unless you googled it, plus I'm a beta for google. Made my psych dr look like a preschool kid when I told him what schizophrenia was. Ya Kno people can copy and share shit to brothea. That's how false identity and false statements are done. Put it this way State Boys call me Boss. Ask the Feds. Semper fi"

Feels really bad. Guy is living in the country in a rural area by himself. Doesn't look like he is taking super great care of himself from the videos he had posted. It's just a really sad situation. Wish there was some way I could help my old friend.
 
Bitch I am opening for Jay Z next month and I remember where you live.
 
You could pay for a steady stream of weekly prostitutes to clean his place and his pecker if you really want to help
 
Lubaolong said:
I was showing the kids some videos last week from when I was in high school and spotted one of my old friends. He was a dude I met in middle school. We played in the band for many years in the same section, had a lot of classes together, had a couple sleepovers, and hung out on the weekends. We even drove across the country and went to Disney World together once one summer.

I moved away from home around age 17 and never really kept in touch with anyone, so I haven't talked with this guy in over 20 years. In fact, I haven't hardly really talked to anyone and have no clue of any news about my hometown, high school buddies, or anything.

I found him pretty quickly on FB and sent him a friends request. The next night, we are chatting, but things seem a little weird. The first thing I noticed were all these weird music videos of him singing. I asked him what's up with all that, and he tells me it's to "give bak to my peeps mane. I'm gunna b opening for JayZ next month." His videos were garbage, so I thought he was probably just joking, but it still didn't explain all the music videos. After talking a bit more, it started becoming clearer..this dude is psychotic. I didn't want to ask him directly about his mental health history, so I tried to ask him about his employment and if he was still healthy and doing well. He admitted that he was on disability for a mental illness and shared the medications he has been prescribed.

Sadly, he told me he hadn't been taking his medications because he doesn't believe he's mentally ill anymore.

"I've heard and read on that psychosis and schizophrenia bullshit stuff I can spit out some pyschcirst shit to you and you wouldn't Kno wat I'm talking about unless you googled it, plus I'm a beta for google. Made my psych dr look like a preschool kid when I told him what schizophrenia was. Ya Kno people can copy and share shit to brothea. That's how false identity and false statements are done. Put it this way State Boys call me Boss. Ask the Feds. Semper fi"

Feels really bad. Guy is living in the country in a rural area by himself. Doesn't look like he is taking super great care of himself from the videos he had posted. It's just a really sad situation. Wish there was some way I could help my old friend.
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Wow. That's awful. I can't even begin to comprehend having to deal with a mental illness of that severity. It had to be tough finding your old childhood/teen friend in that state.
I've had my own battles with mental health because I'm bipolar but my illness is a walk in the park compared to what your friend is dealing with. My condition just manifests itself as mood swings & I don't even experience them to any significant degree as long as I take my meds. Which I'm diligent about. So, it's all good.
Your friend, on the other hand, appears to be completely delusional & fractured from reality which is tragic.
Can you imagine being in a state where you're no longer living in reality & you're confused about your own identity? I honestly believe that I'd rather be dead. I mean, if you lose who you are on a fundamental level why bother going on?
Hopefully, your friend will eventually go back on his meds & get some semblance of his true self back though.
As for what you can do for him I think your options are fairly limited. Maybe if you choose to stay in contact with him you can urge him to seek help or contact his family so they can find a way to get him back on the drugs he so desperately needs.
Best of luck, bro.
 
Thanks for sharing, TS. In my experience, it's best to leave the past in the past and cherish the good memories you have. There are exceptions, of course, but in most cases there's a reason you didn't stay in touch.
 
That sucks man. I had a friend that suddenly had a psychotic break when we were in college. He went shizo-paranoid. I remember when it was first happening one night calling me on the phone while he was driving down the highway talking about how he just knew there were giant reptile eyes in the sky following him and he was trying to drive away from them. He went on meds for it, but would go off them too. The meds kind of turned him into a zombie I guess and he never liked the way he felt on him. It's a shitty situation and I guess there is no good answers for it.

I stayed in touch with him off and on for a while. Last time I talked to him was probably 2015. He deleted all his social media and stopped taking calls from any of us that knew him after that. Strangely he did end up finishing his degree in Theology. No idea what he's doing now though.
 
sweetviolenturg said:
Maybe if you choose to stay in contact with him you can urge him to seek help or contact his family so they can find a way to get him back on the drugs he so desperately needs.
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That's one of the problems. I don't think he has any family. He was raised by his grandmother, who is now deceased. He never told me where his parents were, but looking back now, I wonder if he was living with his grandmother because his mother was too mentally ill to care for him.
 
Mental illness is one of the hardest things to deal with, because while we've figured out how to keep the body going, we really don't know all that much about fixing the brain.
 
It's crazy how much people change. We all do.

I've reconnected with an old friend from school a few years ago as well. He wasn't psychotic or anthing but our lifestyles and interests couldn't have been any more different. Kind of sad. We never bothered to keep in touch after that.

It's extremely rare to have a friendship that lasts forever. People usually move on to other things after a while and eventually go their seperate ways.

I do have a childhood friend I still talk to. We still keep in touch every once in a while. Even though last time we saw each other in person was 8-9 years ago.

That's the kind of friendship that's really rare. When you haven't seen your buddy in years and when you finally hang out again it feels like yesterday and there's no awkwardness.
 
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Might be time to contact the authorities before he hurts himself or someone else
 
That’s sad bro, unfortunately things don’t go according to plan in life, you’ve probably made his year by getting in touch with him,
 
steve38 said:
Thanks for sharing, TS. In my experience, it's best to leave the past in the past and cherish the good memories you have. There are exceptions, of course, but in most cases there's a reason you didn't stay in touch.
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Mainly because no one had PCs or internet back then. Cell phones weren't even widespread yet.
 
You should invite him over for a sleepover and bible study to give your wife another reason to suspect you're a closet homosexual. Never tried it with an old highschool acquaintance but it's not a bad way to meet forum buds irl
 
Ran into an old buddy from high school in Oakland. He’s addicted to blow and xanax and referred to himself as the philosopher fiend. I forgot to add he’s also having regular seizures now because of the drug abuse. Sad all around
 
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