'One day she'll stop crying because she won't give a damn about you': Woman's BRUTALLY honest response to a mom's question about her 16-year-old crying when she yells goes viral

  • While on Quora, an anonymous mom asked: 'How do I teach my 16-year-old daughter not to cry when I yell at her for doing something wrong?'
  • A woman named Alicia Jordan penned a withering response, claiming the mother is wrong for 'not being patient and providing loving guidance'
  • 'Every time you yell at her, you might as well be slapping her across the face,' she wrote, later revealing that her mom used to yell at her 
  • Alicia's message was later posted on Reddit, prompting a debate about whether or not the mom was in the wrong for yelling at her daughter  

A mother who was seeking advice on how to stop her daughter from crying when she yells at her got a withering response from a woman who claims her child will one day leave her out of her life because of the pain she has caused her.

While on the question and answer site Quora, an anonymous mom asked: 'How do I teach my 16-year-old daughter not to cry when I yell at her for doing something wrong?' But instead of getting tips, one woman made it clear that she is the one with the problem. 

'Don't worry about that. Eventually, she'll stop crying on her own,' Alicia Jordan wrote. 'She'll look at you with deadened eyes, finally numb to the pain. She'll ask herself why she ever cared about your opinion. She'll wonder why she ever wanted to please you and make you proud. And she'll move on.'

Seeking advice: An anonymous mom took to Quora this week to ask: 'How do I teach my 16-year-old daughter not to cry when I yell at her for doing something wrong?' (Stock Image)

Seeking advice: An anonymous mom took to Quora this week to ask: 'How do I teach my 16-year-old daughter not to cry when I yell at her for doing something wrong?' (Stock Image)

Harsh: The mom got a withering response from a woman named Alicia Jordan, who wrote: 'Every time you yell at her, you might as well be slapping her across the face' 

Harsh: The mom got a withering response from a woman named Alicia Jordan, who wrote: 'Every time you yell at her, you might as well be slapping her across the face' 

'She'll leave you out of her life in favor of those she believes show her respect and believe in her value,' she added. 

'Every time you yell at her, you might as well be slapping her across the face.'

Alicia noted that the woman's daughter now 'assumes the fault is hers,' but she will one day realize it's her mother's fault for 'not being patient and providing loving guidance when she screws up.'

'And she won't cry when you yell at her anymore because she no longer gives a damn about you. Is this what you want?' she asked the mom.

Alicia made it clear that she knew what she was talking about when she signed the missive, 'A Daughter who was yelled at, too.' 

On Tuesday, screengrabs of Alicia's Quora message were shared on Bored Panda and the subreddit Murdered by Words, where it has received hundreds of comments from parents and children who could could relate.

Experience: Alicia (pictured) signed the missive, 'A Daughter who was yelled at, too'

Experience: Alicia (pictured) signed the missive, 'A Daughter who was yelled at, too'

'This hits close to home,' Reddit user MissRitzy responded. 'Growing up my mother would constantly yell at me over the silliest things, would belittle me, would make fun of my appearance in front of family and friends. She was my childhood bully.'

The woman said her mom continues to bully her to this day, and over the years she has 'become cold with her' and tires her 'hardest to avoid her.'

Bimpnottin had a similar experience and has been in therapy for over a year because of it.

'I have trouble telling people bad news because of this,' the person explained. 'All I've ever know was that my parents would immediately start yelling at me if I told them I f****d something up.' 

One dad known as BurnsZA on Reddit said he was changing his ways because of all the 'sobering' comments on the post. 

REDDIT USERS REACT TO ALICIA'S JORDAN'S WITHERING MESSAGE 

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'I have fallen into that trap as a parent of two boys, 8 and 12 years old. I've lost patience and my go to is to moan and get angry which results in me shouting at them,' he admitted. 'Yeah, it's tough being a parent but I've let them down.'

However, some people thought Alicia's message was too harsh, especially considering they weren't given more context about the mother and daughter's situation.

'I got yelled at for doing some really dumb s**t that I should've known not to do and I cried because that's just how I react to people being mad at me,' abradolph wrote. 

'I wasn't yelled at because my parents were d***s, but because they were concerned and rightfully upset over my actions.'

And EazyCheeze1978 added: 'Without knowing any more than what the advice-seeker gives us in their question, the advice-giver here seems incredibly harsh. 

'Like I have seen mentioned here, yelling may be a rare thing that only happens when a justifiable line has been crossed, and the daughter may have a somewhat weak constitution for being treated like that (or may be spoiled, or any number of things).'

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